Need some advice, things have gotten weird.

"Racescort666" (Racescort666) 07/21/2014 at 21:54 • Filed to: need advice

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First, please enjoy the excellent sounding Roush Focus ST cat-back exhaust. So, my neighbor came over asking for money. This is sketchy as hell because I've lived in my new place barely a month and only know him as well as chatting a few times and having a few beers on the porch.

More detail, he wanted me to buy a Speedway gift card from him that he said had $15 on it. He said that he was out of cash and wanted to buy food but couldn't use the gift card. He said that he's out of cash because his abusive ex left a bunch of bills overdue.

The fact that he had an abusive ex is true as far as I can tell and I mostly feel bad for the guy but the rest of it is red flags for me.

Anyway, for better or worse, I paid him but I said "you're putting me in an uncomfortable position, you can't be asking me for stuff like this again."

A little more detail: he lives in the apartment (townhouse) right below me and can tell when I'm home —I park my car outside (Racescort gets the garage) and he says he can hear me when I climb the stairs— so avoiding him is tricky at best.

Here's where I need help: should I distance myself as best I can? I assume yes but this will be difficult since I can't exactly move.

What do I do when we inevitably run into each other? Lie and make up bullshit excuses? I assume other people can see through these as easily as I typically do.

Also, what do I do if he shows up on my doorstep again? I feel like calling the cops is the wrong move because they probably won't be able to do anything anyway and that might piss him off. Angry people, in my experience, are unpredictable.

Anyway, thanks for reading. Any advice would be helpful.

WRXforScience > Racescort666 07/21/2014 at 22:10

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Just truthfully tell him that you do not feel comfortable giving him money, if you like the guy maybe split a pizza/food instead of giving him cash. You are not this guy's family so you are under no obligation to support this guy.

Just be consistent, honest, and upfront with the guy.

Rico > Racescort666 07/21/2014 at 22:51

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Just keep it cordial and brief with him. Whenever he wats to hang and drink beers just be like "nah not tonight" and if he ever asks to borrow more money just be like "Pshh I don't even have it right now".

Saying "I don't got/have it" is an indisputable way to get out of lending anyone any money, nobody in their right mind is going to say "Yeah you do", they will just accept that you don't have it.

Racescort666 > Rico 07/21/2014 at 23:08

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I considered that. That's probably what I'll say if he ever asks me again. Although, it will probably be "I have no cash" rather than "I have no money" because that will probably be an easier sell.